Domestic Parent Drivel Part I

In my carpet blog, I commented that nearly all my posts on social media were, "domestic parent drivel". I also stated this was for multiple reasons. I know there are some of you who were snickering behind your screens and thinking, "Several reasons. Yeah, right." (no names... You know who you are) But I really do have several reasons I don't usually comment or post things other than my own personal surface of lifestyle.

Of course I post mostly domestic parent drivel because I am a domestic parent. I love my child. I take care of the house, and I am without a car half the time. This makes a lot of what I do very close to home and home oriented by necessity. So yes, I post about them because they are what happens to me. Score one for you. You were right... But wait... There's more.

I don't think facebook is a great place for political or social arguments. If you look through facebook, it is continually filled with political arguments. From economics to social issues, it is everywhere. I don't think this is a good platform for opinions. Everyone comes to post with their own ideas and, when they are meeted with the opposite viewpoint, a debate breaks out. We have all seen these. These are fights where both sides present their arguments calmly and rationally, both decide that the other side has good points and they part ways, both better and happier for knowing more about the other side. Sometimes someone even admits they're wrong or thanks the other side for teaching them.

HAHA... HAha... ha... No. A minuscule amount of arguments on facebook end like this. Usually one side will bash on the other (sometimes only to itself, which only increases the mouth foaming at the ignorance of the other side) and the other side will retaliate in kind. It very nearly always turns into a bloodbath where someone is very hurt, no one learns anything, and almost nothing can be made sense by bystanders. I refuse to be a part of this type of discussion because I will not be dragged down to bashing you just because you think differently than I do.

A mild example is when a woman who is against cry-it-out, and sleep training in general, posted a (rather misinformed) article that tried to equate different sleep training methods to abuse. When she was told that the article was wrong on several points and that sleep training is not evil all the time, or even often, she got bristly and told her antagonists, "Do what you like. It's not my kid being abused." When someone insinuated that a parent who would not do any sleep training could be considered lazy, she flew into a rage and said she was no such thing and how dare anyone accuse her of bad parenting when the article clearly showed exactly what sleep training was like all the time for every child ever.

I did poke my nose in then, mentioned that both sides had good points, listed them, and that if the first poster didn't want to be attacked, she should probably refrain from doing so herself. Of course, in taking neither side, both sides thought I took the other and I was chewed to pieces by both women.

I know people who like the bloodbaths. Who think only if their teeth are in a throat do they make a difference in this world. More power to them. I'm not like that. You want to talk politics with me? Great. I'll meet you at a playground or you can come over and we can discuss several topics at length. I have opinions. I have opinionated opinions. No one cares about my opinions on facebook. They only care about their own point of view. On facebook, if my point of view doesn't align with yours, I am wrong, and evil, and like to eat children... Or something like that... In real life, if my point of view differs from yours, we are just two people with differing opinions. I like that better.

Reason enough to stick to drivel? For me, yes. BUT WAIT! There's more! Next time. This was way longer than I expected.

God bless and see you soon,

Joelle